I was just pondering on something yesterday that made me realise I have changed. I was thinking about my 12 week challenge I am doing and rewarding myself with a manicure when I achieve 1kg weight loss! You can't hear my tone but I said it with conviction and excitement. This took me off guard because - and I'm not sure if you're going to be able to relate to this- but when I have tried to set specific goals like this in the past I would first feel good that I was goal setting but then a wave of fear would sweep over me and THROUGH my body and would think "well, how am I gonna do THAT?" and the worst self judgement ever "what if I don't? That'll be really annoying and then I'll get all disappointed.. I really don't wanna feel disappointed that I didn't get there.." and in less than 10minutes my mind was off the excitement of the goal!! The POSSIBILITY of not achieving it took over my thoughts and emotions. I was off track.
Can you relate or am I the only crazy one that has this self dialogue going on?
Anyway, after some reflection on how my mindset has shifted I realised the biggest thing that I have been doing which has helped me - is going GENERAL with my goals and focusing on what FEELS GOOD.
Our emotions play a massive role on what we do and for me, even though I wanted to lose a certain amount of weight, focusing on it DIDNT FEEL GOOD! It was too specific and created a shift in my mood and therefore the actions I took. In other words, I wanted it but I wasn't motivated by it!
So, the coolest tool I have learnt over the past year from Esther Hicks and Aaron Montague is to "go general" and make sure the goal feels good. I'll be honest with you, it took me a while to even understand what this meant, however, when I started applying it in my life thing started to shift for me! I stopped going back and forth and was more consistent in my thoughts and actions!
For example you can choose to focus on a specific or general goal (whatever feels the best to you!)
Specific: I want to lose 10kg
General: I want to feel good
I want to feel healthy
I want more energy
I want to feel more confident
I want to feel lighter
I want to feel stronger
I want to feel more in control
Going general can really change the way you see yourself and your goals and can be so much more motivating!
We can have control over our thoughts and emotions, it just takes a decision to shift your focus to what feels good! It may sound like a simple concept, but it works!
Hope you are having an amazing day.
Always believe in yourself and what you want. Your goals should excite you, and the excitement and passion you will feel will create a momentum of change in your life!
Love Eleni xx